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Most relationship problems don't start with the wrong person. They start with the wrong thinking.
"You're Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self" is the debut book from Sabrina Alexis Bendory — co-founder of A New Mode, one of the most widely read relationship advice platforms on the internet, reaching millions of women worldwide, and one of the most followed dating experts on TikTok and Instagram. Her work has been featured in Vogue, Newsweek, and the New York Post. This book distills more than a decade of her most impactful relationship insights into a single, accessible guide.
The central argument is deceptively simple: the reason most people struggle to find and keep love isn't bad luck or the wrong partners — it's the stories they tell themselves about what they deserve, what love looks like, and why things keep going wrong. Bendory addresses the mindset patterns that quietly sabotage relationships before they have a chance: the obsessive analytical loop of trying to decode someone's behavior, the tendency to date the same unavailable person in different packaging, the habit of abandoning yourself to make someone stay, and the confusion between genuine connection and anxious attachment to potential.
Written in Bendory's direct, conversational, and zero-judgment voice, this book covers what healthy relationships actually look like and how to recognize one, how to identify and break the patterns keeping you stuck, how to stop chasing and start choosing, how to build the self-worth that makes lasting love possible, and what red flags actually signal versus what's worth working through.
This is the starting point. If Bendory’s second book, "Detached," goes deep on attachment theory and emotional self-regulation, "You're Overthinking" It is where to begin — the foundational guide to understanding why love has been hard and what to actually do about it.
Most relationship problems don't start with the wrong person. They start with the wrong thinking.
"You're Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self" is the debut book from Sabrina Alexis Bendory — co-founder of A New Mode, one of the most widely read relationship advice platforms on the internet, reaching millions of women worldwide, and one of the most followed dating experts on TikTok and Instagram. Her work has been featured in Vogue, Newsweek, and the New York Post. This book distills more than a decade of her most impactful relationship insights into a single, accessible guide.
The central argument is deceptively simple: the reason most people struggle to find and keep love isn't bad luck or the wrong partners — it's the stories they tell themselves about what they deserve, what love looks like, and why things keep going wrong. Bendory addresses the mindset patterns that quietly sabotage relationships before they have a chance: the obsessive analytical loop of trying to decode someone's behavior, the tendency to date the same unavailable person in different packaging, the habit of abandoning yourself to make someone stay, and the confusion between genuine connection and anxious attachment to potential.
Written in Bendory's direct, conversational, and zero-judgment voice, this book covers what healthy relationships actually look like and how to recognize one, how to identify and break the patterns keeping you stuck, how to stop chasing and start choosing, how to build the self-worth that makes lasting love possible, and what red flags actually signal versus what's worth working through.
This is the starting point. If Bendory’s second book, "Detached," goes deep on attachment theory and emotional self-regulation, "You're Overthinking" It is where to begin — the foundational guide to understanding why love has been hard and what to actually do about it.